How to apologize

Sometimes just saying “sorry” isn’t enough, especially if the offending party just moves along without addressing the harm or providing the hurt party a safe space to share the hurt that was caused. It is deeply uncomfortable to sit and listen to how you’ve hurt someone, I know this because I’ve been on the receiving end of hearing about the pain I have caused, it was uncomfortable, painful, and then eventually it was healing.

In order to be a safe person you have to be willing to be uncomfortable without being defensive, you have to see things from the others perspective without needing to explain your side.

Healing and forgiveness begin when the hurt party is heard, not when the offending party feels better.

Learning how to apologize is important, it allows the opportunity for further communication and healing to remain open.